To the Woman Who Feels Alone

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To the Woman Who Feels Alone,

On the outside things looks just fine.  No one knows the hurt that is constantly bubbling just under the surface.  No one understands just how hard you have to work to keep it hidden.  Your smile is firmly in place but your eyes show a tenderness that I recognize.

I see how you keep your friendships superficial so that people can’t get too close.  People seem safer at an arms’ reach, but I remember the loneliness that kind of distance creates.  It feels like it should be freeing to not have anyone really know you, but after a while the solitude begins to feel suffocating.

Maybe your business or your marriage or your dreams have failed.  Maybe you have some shameful secret that seems to be consuming you.  Maybe you are just desperately insecure and fearful.  Maybe you’ve been hurt one too many times in the past.  It could be a multitude of maybes.

Whatever the reason, you have been hiding behind a mask and it is wearing you out.

The loneliness and the hiding is exhausting.

It is time to shake off the shackles.  Don’t let them weigh you down anymore.  Shame and guilt have no power over you.  Insecurity and fear cannot hold you down.  You were not meant to carry that weight.

One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Romans 8:1 “So now there isn’t any condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

No Condemnation.  None.

If you are a sinner saved by His boundless and abundant grace, you are no longer a slave to all of those old things that use to weigh so heavily of you.  You have complete freedom to live a life released from sin’s bondage. 

Come out of hiding. 

Live in the light.

1 John 1:7-9 CEB tells us “But if we live in the light in the same way as he is in the light, we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from every sin.  If we claim, “We don’t have any sin,” we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.  But if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from everything we’ve done wrong.”

It sounds like it’s too simple to be true, but dear woman who feels alone, it isn’t.

 It really is that easy.

 And it is less lonely than you think because the Bible says we’ve all missed the mark and fallen short.  Every one of us.

Matthew 11:28-30 CEB says “Come to me all you who are struggling hard and carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.  Put on my yoke and learn from me.  I’m gentle and humble.  And you will find rest for yourselves.  My yoke is easy to bear, and my burden is light.”



Doesn’t that sound so refreshing?

If you haven’t ever trusted Him as your Savior, what is holding you back?  What do you have to lose by letting go of it all and trusting in a God who loves you enough to give His Son as payment for your sin so that you could walk in Freedom?

Galatians 5:1 says that Christ has set us free for freedom. Therefore, we are able to stand firm.  We don’t have to submit to the bondage of slavery again.

Think about it for a moment. 

Wouldn’t it feel so good to walk in the light?  Wouldn’t it feel so good to stop struggling beneath the weight of it all.  It would feel so freeing to hand your burdens and struggles and sin and shame and pain to the only one who can help you bear it. 

Christian woman who feels alone, release it.  Claim your name.  You are Redeemed.

Lonely woman who doesn’t know Jesus, meet him.  He is the game changer.

I see you, woman who feels alone. 

Because I’ve been you. 

But now, I’m learning to choose freedom.

Love and blessings,



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Bobbie Schae

Bobbie is a follower of Jesus, a wife, a homeschool mom, a blogger, and has a heart for sharing God with women in a way that is authentic and relatable.

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I am so thrilled you came to Declare this year! I never quite made it across the room to meet you in all the hustle and bustle, but you absolutely caught my eye rocking that hairstyle of yours. I love it!

This post… so beautiful and true. Thank you for sharing and encouraging us to get out into the light.

“Come out of hiding.

Live in the light.”

God has been speaking those exact words to me over the last month, and it made me smile tremendously to see them here on your site.

Can’t wait to get to know you!


Oh Michelle! I wish I would have gotten to meet you! Thanks for your sweet words!

So encouraging Bobbie! I needed this! Thank you!

Thank you Lisa! ❤️

A beautiful sister in Christian shared this with me this is. I cried and cried. This article is me. I struggle, and until very recently, was able to hide this struggle. I kept my sisters in Christ only at arms length, because I didn’t want to burden them with my personal struggles in my life. For the past top months of keeping it all in, I have broken. Mentally and physically. I can’t sleep at night, and a struggle to find joy in serving like I do. I cry for my old life back. Now I see that if I would have truly given it is over to my Father and leaned on someone, I may not been struggling like I have been. I know my Father brings healing, I just need to allow Him to, and forget that shame I feel when I should lean on someone.

Thank you so much for being so open and sharing this! My heart aches for you because I’ve been in that place before. I’m praying for total restoration and peace as you hand it all over to Jesus! ❤️

I love this! Thank you for sharing truth of living in the light with us!

❤️Thank you Teresa!

Wow I definitely needed this. Thank you ❤️

Thanks for your encouragements Courtney! ❤️❤️❤️

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