Lie #1: The best way to know my role as a mom is to look around.
Truth: The best way to know our roles as a mom is to look up.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: The best way to apply this truth and to walk in freedom is to find out what God says about your role as a mom.
Scripture Reference: Proverbs 2:6 For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.
Lie #2: I have to figure this out on my own.
Truth: You don’t ever have to figure out your role as a mom on your own.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: Aside for inviting God into your parenting, it is important to find authentic community who you can be open, vulnerable, and real with.
Scripture Reference: 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Lie #3: If I’m doing this right, it will be easy.
Truth: Being a mom is a hard and holy work. It isn’t always easy.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: There are times where being a mom is going to challenge us. Relying on our own strength and abilities isn’t enough.
Scripture Reference: Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Lie #4: Everyone else knows what they are doing.
Truth: Everyone is learning as they go and no one has it all figured out.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: Find a godly woman who has gone ahead of you and has some wisdom and insight to share that can be a mentor to you.
Scripture Reference: Titus 2:4-5 Then they (older women) can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Lie #5: Nothing less than perfection will do.
Truth: There was only one perfect person to ever walk this Earth and we aren’t Him.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: Say No to the Mom guilt we put on ourselves. We must rest in the fact that we have a God whose strength is made perfect in our weakness.
Scripture Reference: 2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
Lie #6: I have to meet other’s expectations.
Truth: We aren’t called to measure up the standards of this world.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: Remember, we look up instead of around. We are supposed to be set apart. Don’t try to be just like everyone else.
Scripture Reference: Matthew 5:14-16 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
Lie #7: My family should look/act/function a certain way.
Truth: Every family looks different
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: We must understand that our families are made up of individuals and each one is a unique creation. We must let go of our own expectations.
Scripture Reference: Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Lie #8: I have to be in control of everything
Truth: You don’t have to be in control, you just need to trust the one who is.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: We have to learn to release some of the pressure. The best way that we can do that is to do what only you can do, and trust God for the rest.
Scripture Reference: Psalm 28:7 The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him.
Lie #9: I’m only a good mom if I do ALL THE THINGS.
Truth: Being a good mom means focusing our energy and our attention on the things that matter most.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: We are called to love God, love and be a help to our husbands, and raise our children up to know God. Those are the things that matter most. The rest is extra.
Scripture Reference: Mark 12:30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.
Lie #10: Being a good mom means no one ever messes up, especially not you.
Truth: Being a good mom means giving grace to ourselves and to our families.
Practical Way to Walk in Truth: Being a good mom means that we understand that we need God’s lavish grace and mercy and so do the members of our family.
Scripture Reference: John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
*All scripture is from NIV