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Holey to Whole: My SHALOM Journey Continues

I’m fairly certain that there are a handful of spaces in my home where I can hear God the most clearly. In the steamy fog of my shower, standing at the island with an old Pyrex mixing bowl in hand, in the cozy quiet of my downstairs office, and standing in front of the dryer folding fluffy warm clothes seem to be the places He whispers to me the most often. That was the case this morning. I reached my sweatshirt clad arms into the heat of the dryer and pulled out my youngest son’s favorite gray fleece pants. As I shook the wrinkles out and lined up the seams to fold them, I had to shake my head and smile. This barely teenage boy of mine isn’t really all that concerned with impressing others yet. That fact combined with the fact that he loves to be comfortable and cozy

My Quiet Revolution: A Nose Ring That Was About So Much More Than A Nose Ring

Tuesday, I posted this picture on social media with text that read, “Sometimes, on a Tuesday, you’re feeling bold and decide to go red and get a tattoo.” My sweet friends on social media had so many kind things to say, but one comment struck me in particular. A friend commented that she’d wanted to get a nose ring for a long time, but worried how others might respond. She complimented me on being courageous enough to be myself. She had no idea how meaningful that comment was, not because I was fishing for kind words, but because that nose ring was my own little silent revolution. 2a: a sudden, radical, or complete change. …d: a fundamental change in the way of thinking about or visualizing something  (from merriam-webster.com) A Story About A Nose Ring That Was About So Much More Than A Nose Ring I had wanted to get my nose

When we’re tired from over doing…

Today, I was tired.  Not the kind of tired that a nap could fix, but a soul weary kind of tired. An I’ve been DOING and not really ABIDING kind of tired. Do you know the tired I’m talking about? I always recognize this kind of tired because, in it, my emotions sit a little too close to the surface, my words and reactions come out before they pass through my filter, and overwhelm is the dominant feeling weighing on me.  My natural tendency is to choose one extreme when I feel this way. I either want to hibernate or push through. I want to burrow under blankets and rest until I feel recharged or I want to tackle the to do list and cross off every item until I feel accomplished. Does that sound familiar?  Today, I took a different approach.  I’m working to undo some unhealthy habits that

Feeling a little out of your element?

Have you ever felt like you’re being asked to step way outside of your comfort zone into a place where you don’t feel as confident in your capabilities as you might normally feel? Maybe it’s your job. It could be that your responsibilities have changed and you are feeling a bit uneasy tacking the new challenges set in front of you. Home life can feel this way, too. Marriage and children both go through new phases and stages that can leave us scratching our heads and wondering how best to love and serve these people that God has given us to spend our lives with. It could be a friendship or a family relationship that has shifted. You might find yourself in a place where you feel a little overwhelmed by the new role you fill or the way you’re being asked to help. Maybe it is a ministry or

The Love Offering

Do you need a little encouragement on how to find and connect with community? (Hint: It’s so much easier than we think!) How about a little reminder that church can be that safe space where we grow closer to one another and to God? Maybe you need a little pat on the back that says, “Hey, girl! This work that you do in the everyday with you’re In-Real-Life or your Over-The-Screen people has Jesus written all over it?” What about a little hope that Sisterhood exists and that we can all scoot on over and make a little room at the table for one another? My sweet friend Rachael Adams interviewed me for her Love Offering podcast and we had a great conversation about all of those things!  it’s just the thing you need today to encourage your heart! Here’s what Rachael had to say about it: Bobbie Schae is

Common Misconceptions About the Beatitudes (and What Jesus Really Meant)

Have you ever read through the Beatitudes in the Sermon on the Mount and breathed a deep sigh of relief as you comforted yourself with a particular blessing associated with a hardship you were going through? “Blessed are those who are persecuted,” we might read, and apply that blessing like a salve to soothe our hurt feelings from the unkind words that were spoken against us. Maybe you have looked at the list of characteristics in Matthew 5:3-11 as a kind of checklist of model behaviors to work towards, or even as a list of blessings to try to earn. Possibly you’ve been striving towards these two goals and have felt a little frustrated that they seem so hard to achieve. It could be that you’ve seen them as a list of Jesus’ favorite kind of people and have gotten a little worried that you might not make the cut. There isn’t

Overcoming Opposition: 5 Part Battle Plan

Does it ever seem like the cards are stacked against you and opposition comes from every angle? You aren’t alone and there is a battle plan for times like this. Maybe things at work seem a little difficult and home isn’t currently the solace that you hoped it would be. Possibly you’re dealing with a difficult or broken relationship or health and financial struggles. It could be that on top of it all, you’re feeling distance between you and God that is heavy on your heart. There are just some seasons that are harder to bear than others because it seems like the difficulties that we face are surrounding us on every side. I get it. I’ve been there, too. I’m in a season where there seems like there is a lot to overcome. There isn’t one thing or another that is particularly difficult, but I do seem to be

December BASU – Holly Haynes

I love the beginning of each month when I get to connect you to some of my favorite women who are doing absolutely wonderful things for the Kingdom.  That is what Build A Sister Up is all about!  I want to give you an opportunity to get to know other amazing ladies who can encourage you, inspire you, and walk with you in the craziness of life. This month, I’m excited to introduce you to my sweet friend, Holly Haynes.  If ever there were someone who can get you into the Christmas Spirit, it is Holly.  You guys.  Her actual name is Holly Noel, she was born a few days before Christmas, and I’ve never met anyone who loves Christmas quite like she does.  She is a writer, speaker, and Bible teacher and she aspires to encourage women in their faith. Meet my friend and Sister at Build A Sister

Walking Differently

            * “God, I’m trying my best, but everyone else seems to be pushing ahead of me and getting what I so desperately want.  Why?!?” Have you ever felt like this? Listen to John 5: 3-9. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years.  When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”  “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”  Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up

October BASU – Shontell Brewer

Every single month I get so excited to introduce you to another one of my friends!  It just makes me so happy to connect you with women who have a desire to walk with you as you walk this life of faith!  This month, I am beyond thrilled to introduce you to Shontell Brewer!  She’s a wife, mama, author, blogger, activist, you tuber, Taco Tuesday host, and a dear friend… she’s got a whole lot going on PLUS, her brand new book comes out later this month! She makes me laugh, she challenges me to love people well, and she encourages me to dig deeper into my relationship with Jesus.  You’re going to love getting to know her, so let’s get right into our interview! ****PS.  I’m launching something so cool this month with Shontell’s new book!  You can find it all the way at the end of the interview!  You

July BASU – Katie M. Reid

1. Can you tell us a little about yourself? I’m a firstborn who married a first born. My God’s grace it’s working out well (and thankfully my hubby is laid back and not bossy like me). Musicals give me life (I’m still not tired of the Hamilton soundtrack). Also to-do lists are my jam. I’m made like Martha and proud of it. 😉 We have five loud and wonderful children (ages 2-14) and we make our home in the middle of Michigan. 2. Coffee or Tea? Tea all the way! Hot or iced. Rooibos is my favorite kind of tea, yum! 3. Exercise or nap? Ooo, I like both. 20 minute power naps are my super power but I feel good when I am running (err jogging) regularly. 4. Cake or pie? How about cookies instead? Not a cake girl, but French silk or peanut butter pie are delicious. 5.

When What Ifs Hijack Your Joy

I’ve been thinking about joy and writing about joy and reading about joy this month, but some of my most valuable lessons about joy seem to just hit me out of the blue. I had just finished ordering school books and supplies for next year, switching out loads of laundry, and was in process of cleaning up lunch and hastily loading the dishwasher.  I had been moving from one task to the next all morning, trying to get all of the STUFF done so that I could get some ‘real, important work’ done. I have an article that needs to be written and a digital magazine to put together and all of this STUFF (making meals, preparing for school, caring for my family’s needs, etc.) was keeping me from getting to the important things that I really NEEDED to do. As I turned around to take a stack of plates

JOY that lasts- June Theme

  Joy. If I sit and think about what joy should look like, my mind wanders to those memories that I’ve tucked away where I feel blissfully happy. Like snapshots, I thumb through them.  I see the places and the people that I love the most.  I see birthday parties and anniversaries and holidays and celebrations and family gatherings.  I see the grins of my boys and the smile of my husband.  I hear the laughter of my family. A smile spreads across my face as I recall those moments, but a twinge of sadness shadows them because all they are now is just that.  Moments.  I’ve tucked them away and can turn to them for a smile and the warm, fuzzy feelings that they bring, but the experience of them is in the past. Memories.  Moments.  Fleeting.  Temporary. That’s when truth glimmers and hope pushes in.  I’m reminded of

June BASU – Lauren Gaskill

Happy June, sweet friends!  My favorite part of each new month is introducing you to another of my Sisters at Build a Sister Up! This month, I’m excited to introduce you to my friend, Lauren Gaskill.  Lauren is a blogger, a speaker, podcaster, and founder of She Found Joy.  She Found Joy is a nationwide ministry encouraging women to discover an authentic joy in Jesus, live it consistently and give it abundantly.  They host ladies’ night out events across the country!  You’re going to want to pop in to her website right now and find one near you! She is also in the process of publishing her first book, Into the Deep: Diving Into a Life of Courageous Faith, which releases Nov. 6 and is available for pre-order now on Amazon. Diagnosed with an incurable genetic disorder (Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome), Lauren is passionate about encouraging others to fight for faith

April BASU – Bekah Pogue

You guys!  It’s Spring, finally!  Although, as I sit down to type this post there is snow in the forecast for tomorrow.  Obviously, it is not very Spring-like here in mid-Missouri yet. This month, I’m bringing a little sunshine into your life by introducing you to my sweet friend and Sister at Build A Sister Up, Bekah Pogue.  Bekah is just a complete joy to know.  She’s a total “take time to smell the roses” kind of gal!  Typing out her interview just put a smile on my face and I can’t wait for you to read her words and get to know her heart. Bekah isn’t just cheery and fun, she’s also wise and reflective.  She is deep water and she’s the queen of Soul Care.  As soon as God laid the theme of Soul Care on my heart for April’s topic, I knew Bekah had to be the Sister

March BASU – Gretchen Fleming

Hello, friends! It’s a new month and that means that I get the honor and privilege of introducing you to another one of my sweet sisters at Build A Sister Up. My word for March is FAITHFUL and this month I’m pressing in to Psalms 86:11 which says: Teach me your way, Lord, that I may rely on your faithfulness; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. If you missed my post that talked about why I’m focusing on FAITHFULNESS, you can find that here I’m excited to introduce you to my friend, Gretchen Fleming, this month!  If there is one word that I would use to describe Gretchen, it would probably be faithful. Gretchen is always there, pouring out encouragement online and sharing her heart and her words with women who need it.  She’s steadfast.  She knows what God has called her to do and she faithfully does it. I love that about

March Theme- Faithful

Do you know what I love about the month of March?  March brings a gentle reminder that after persevering through the cold and harsh reality of winter, hope awaits.   We have faith that Spring is on its’ way. We see that as new life bursts through all around us.  Green things sprout up from the soil.  Flowers and trees begin to bud with new growth.  Baby animals are born.  The sun, which seems to have been hidden for so long, finally peeks back out. March reminds us to keep holding on to hope, to keep persevering, and to keep pushing forward, because we can have faith that the fresh, new hope of Spring is just around the corner. Faith is all about trusting in the promises we hold true.  We know that Spring always follows winter.  It’s fact.  It’s true.  It’s a promise we can trust if we just hang

How can we be great this year?

We all want to be great. Isn’t greatness something we all long for?  We all want to be recognized and celebrated as someone who is worthy and valuable.  Many of us made New Year’s resolutions to help us achieve steps toward the purpose of greatness in 2018.  I know I did.  I made goals and set a plan in action to help me be more intentional with this one life God has given me.  I want 2018 to be my best year yet. I talked about that in my Not Just Another New Year’s Post I want to be a better version of myself this year.  Don’t you? We want to be better wives and better moms.  We aim to be better friends and better at our jobs.  We work for better health and better happiness.  Those are common goals that many of us are working towards, and there is nothing

Not Just Another New Year’s Post

Well, the New Year is in full swing.  Resolutions have been made.  Goals have been set.  Plans have been put into action.  Words have been claimed.  All the things that are intended to make this new year our best one yet have been determined, and we are here, a week and a half into 2018, knee deep in the follow through. That is my my favorite place to be though, because knee deep in the follow through is where the rubber really meets the road.  It is the place where we decide if we really do want 2018 to be the year that changes things for us. I’m going to be really honest here.  I’m a rebel at heart.  If everyone is doing something, I choose not not to, just for the sake of opposition. I’m not usually one to jump on a trendy train, so when people began choosing

January BASU – Amy Elaine Martinez

Happy 2018 to you! I absolutely love celebrating a new year!  January 1st is like cracking open a book only to find a blank page and realizing that you have the chance to pen your very own story.  A new year is a fresh beginning and it brings with it eagerness, anticipation, and hope.  I can’t wait to see who the pages of 2018 will be written! I’m praying that you feel that, too!  I trust that when you opened your eyes this morning to this untouched year, it was with great expectation at the things that God has in store for you! In this new year, I’m excited to be able to connect you to a new friend from Build A Sister Up.  Amy Elaine Martinez has been a joy to get to know.  She has a heart for encouraging women to become Victory Girls who can boldly fight

December BASU – Erika Dawson

Tis’ the season and I’m so very excited about it!  I love the holidays, the togetherness, the food, the festivities, and the opportunity to focus on Christ, the real meaning of Christmas.  Thank you for taking time out of your busy month to drop in and meet my sweet friend, Erika Dawson. Erika has a beautiful blog that is overflowing with inspiration for mamas.  She also just released the Faithful Life Planner, a fantastic new resource that is going to rock your world. Snuggle yourself up by a warm fire and reach for a hot cup of cocoa to sip.  Pull the blanket up a little tighter and get cozy, because you’re going to love getting to know Erika and her heart for moms. Can you tell us a little about yourself? Sure! My husband and I have been married for nearly 12 years, and we have 4 kids (9,

November BASU – Niki Hardy

Happy November, friends!  Is anyone else amazed that the holiday season is almost here?  Time is just zipping by!  I won’t complain, though, because November means Thanksgiving and, in my family, Thanksgiving means my Uncle Shorty’s pies.  I. CAN’T. WAIT. A new month also means that I get the opportunity to introduce you to another one of my sweet sisters from Build A Sister UP.  This month, I get the privilege to connect you with my dear friend Niki Hardy. You are going to adore Niki.  As a cancer survivor, she loves to encourage women to thrive, not just survive the difficult things that they may be facing in their lives.  She’s a brilliant writer and regularly shares fantastic material through social media and her website.   You definitely won’t want to miss the weekly Facebook Lives from her Facebook page because, not only will you walk away feeling uplifted, but

October BASU – Kris Camealy

It’s a new month and I’m so very excited to introduce you to my dear friend Kris Camealy.  Kris has one of the most beautiful hearts.  She feels and writes deeply and it’s beautiful.  I absolutely adore Kris’ writing because she never fails to take me straight to the feet of my Jesus and lead me to worship. Grab a cup of something pumpkin spice settle in to meet my sweet friend Kris. Can you tell us a little about yourself? Sure…I am a homeschooling mom to my four kids, wife to my “high school sweetheart” husband (of 18 years) and we live in middle Ohio. I’m also a writer, a teacher, an amateur photographer and a lover of all things connected to the kitchen. I run a contributor blog, called GraceTable.org, and also host Refine {the retreat}, a spiritual retreat for women. Coffee or tea? Coffee please, with coconut

Lessons about Faith that I’ve learned from Rosie: Back to his Feet

              Mini blog: Lessons about Faith that I’ve learned from Rosie: Back to his Feet * Rosie is about the orneriest little sweet thing ever. She’s a handful and doesn’t know her manners or the rules very well, but she’s learning. Mostly. She’s a boundary tester. A natural wanderer. We have that in common. *One thing that Rosie does know is right where I am. All of the time. If I’m in the bathroom, her furry little paws are stretched under the crack of the door. When I’m in the shower, her little black nose is pressed right against the glass. If I stand still for longer than a second, she curls herself up into a little ball and lays right at (or actually, ON) my feet. *She’s never far from my side. Even though she gets herself into all sorts of situations when

10 Lies Moms Believe

   Lie #1:  The best way to know my role as a mom is to look around.  Truth:  The best way to know our roles as a mom is to look up. Practical Way to Walk in Truth:  The best way to apply this truth and to walk in freedom is to find out what God says about your role as a mom. Scripture Reference:  Proverbs 2:6 For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.   Lie #2:  I have to figure this out on my own. Truth:  You don’t ever have to figure out your role as a mom on your own. Practical Way to Walk in Truth:  Aside for inviting God into your parenting, it is important to find authentic community who you can be open, vulnerable, and real with. Scripture Reference:  1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up,

Bible Verses for Anxious Hearts

  Bible Verses for Anxious Hearts   *Psalm 94:18-19 (NIV) When I said, “My foot is slipping,” your unfailing love, Lord, supported me.  When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy.   *1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.   *Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.   *Psalm 27:3 (NIV) Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then I will be confident.   *Psalm 91:4-6 (NIV) He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.  You will not fear the terror of night nor

August Build A Sister Up- Shari Rigby

This month Build A Sister Up is highlighting one of my very dearest friends!  I met Shari Rigby several years ago at a Gary Sinise Foundation event and it was immediately evident that we had kindred hearts!  We connected right away and have been close friends ever since!I always look forward to visiting Los Angeles so that I can connect with her. She is one of my very favorite people to have deep, rich conversations with and the two of us can do some serious thrift store shopping when we get together. You are going to love getting to know Shari.  It is rare to meet a woman who loves Jesus so whole heartedly and is committed to following Him and honoring Him in her life and in her career the way that Shari is. I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend, actress, writer, director, speaker, and producer,

July Build a Sister Up – Tammy Hendricksmeyer

I’m so excited to introduce you to Tammy (T.H.)!  You’re going to her energetic and encouraging personality, her uplifting writing, and her fun interview answers! Can you tell us a little about yourself? I’m a California-born girl who currently lives on her Texas farm, but as a child, dreamt of traveling to Spain. Instead, I lived and gave birth to my daughter on the Asian island of Okinawa, a place muggier than southern Georgia. I also lived and birthed my oldest son in the quaint village of Bad Windshiem, Germany. With exception, my third son was born in “plain” ol’ Kentucky, however it’s a state with captivating hills and karst terrain. During my young adult years, I lived as a prodigal running from the church, and essentially from God. But in Killeen, Tx, I dedicated my whole life (and self) to Him. In those days, I jammed out to DC

Out With The Old

I don’t know about you, but I am so glad that I am no longer who I once was.  I was recently reminded of this as I waited to board my flight at the airport.  I walked away from my husband in search of a piping hot cup of coffee and returned to find him chatting with a man at our gate. The man was an old high school acquaintance of ours.  I recognized him immediately even though it has been more years than I care to admit since we all went to high school together.  He looked exactly the same. It took him a little longer to recognize me.  The years have definitely changed me.  I don’t look much like I did in high school.  I’ve lost the pony tail, bangs, and cheerleading uniform that were so familiar back then.  My hair is cut short now and, thankfully, I

Are you watering weeds?

“Reaching my hand into the dark soil, I could feel that the roots had gotten deep. I had to put my weight into the pull to unearth something I had spent weeks tending. I felt a little discouraged; I’d invested my time and attention into something that had proved to be working against the growth I was seeking the whole time. I also felt a little frustrated that I’d been so easily deceived.” God is constantly teaching me valuable lessons through everyday life experiences.  I had the opportunity to share a particularly powerful lesson that I learned recently at iBelieve.com about recognizing spiritual weeds in my life. Pulling out that weed and the others like it that day in my garden caused a slew of thoughts to start circulating around my mind. As Christians, how many weeds have taken root in our lives? How many things have we poured our time

June Build a Sister Up – Amy Breitman

It has been so much fun getting to know Amy!  This country gal has an absolutely beautiful heart and I love the story that God is weaving throughout her life.  I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend and fellow dirt-road-lover, Amy Breitmann. Can you tell us a little about yourself? I’ve been married to my husband Troy for 24 years and we have two children. Shelby is 19 and just finished her freshman year at college.  Our son Mitchell is 17 and will be a senior next year.  We are transplanted Northerners but have lived in Augusta, GA for more than 20 years.  ( I still don’t like sweet tea or grits…but southern hospitality is unmatched!) I have been in ministry of one kind or another for my entire career, as an entrepreneur and storyteller.  In this season I work from home and travel some with Vi Bella

Life on the Scrambler

“When life gets a little too busy, doesn’t it feel an awfully lot like The Scrambler ride at the fair?” I’m becoming less and less of a fan of the chaotic, busy lifestyles that seem to be becoming the norm.  That kind of hectic pace makes me feel all too much like I’m on a spiraling, spinning Scrambelr ride. I want to enjoy a life that is productive, but I also don’t want to feel like I’m being slung from one thing to the next, missing out on the people, experiences, and relationships that God has placed in my life for me to enjoy. Today I’m sharing my plan to live unscrambled this summer over at Exhale Women. https://www.exhalewomen.org/blog/2017/5/29/life-on-the-scrambler

Hope For The Hurting by Katie M. Reid

If you don’t already know her, I am so excited to have the opportunity to introduce you to my sweet friend, Katie M. Reid.  She is someone you will want to get familiar with.  Her encouraging words and practical teachings have quickly become a favorite of mine! She has become a very dear friend and someone that I just love talking to because her heart for God and for people is just impossible to overlook! Today, in her guest post, she is sharing how we, as Christians, can have hope even in the hard days.  I know that you are going to love her and her words as much as I do! Hope for the Hard Days By: Katie M. Reid   Where do you turn in times of trouble? How do you excavate hope in the midst of sinking sand? When the earth seems to give way to fear,

Getting A Little Uncomfortable

Psalm 95:7b-8a “…Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts…” One thing that I am constantly trying to do is to listen to that still small voice that stirs my Spirit.  I’m trying to be attentive to its’ whispering.  I’m trying to keep a tender heart that is willing to obey. Do you want to hear a “true confession”?  Before I became a Christian, when I heard someone say something about the Holy Spirit, I thought they might be just a tad on the crazy side.  It all sounded a little too far-fetched for me.  Even early in my Christian life, I never fully understood the Holy Spirit because I leaned too heavily into the rules and the law.  They were black and white.  I could understand them easily and they left little room for interpretation.  Honestly, I was a little uncomfortable with the freedom the Spirit

May Build A Sister Up Highlight: Kristin Schell

There are so many amazing women who are pouring their lives into serving Jesus and His people. They inspire me and encourage me to keep pressing on in my faith walk. I’m so excited to be able to share some of those women with you here, on the Build a Sister Up Page!  I hope this becomes a place that you return to often to meet new people, to be inspired, to be encouraged, and to encourage others!   Build A Sister Up is a way for us to connect with some amazing women, to get to know them, to learn what they are working on, and to build them up as they serve the Lord.   This month Build A Sister Up is highlighting:  Kristin Schell   About Kristin Schell? Kristin Schell is on a mission to love her neighbors. She put a picnic table in her front yard,

April Build A Sister Up: Carey Scott

Carey Scott is an author, speaker, and life coach, honest about her walk with the Lord… stumbles, fumbles and all. She is the author of Untangled, a book where she bravely shares her story of abuse, the insecurities birthed from it, and offers practical advice on how to live in freedom. Her next book Uncommon, a battle cry for women to live differently than the world commands, is set to release in July. Carey lives in Northern Colorado with her family. Carey is a sweet friend of mine and I am pleased to introduce you to her!  I had the opportunity to do the first ever Build A Sister Up interview with Carey and I think you are going to love getting to know her. Can you tell us a little about yourself? I’m a mom to two teenagers and am married to an awesome guy. We have a lot

It’s Not Too Late

“My faith was real but it wasn’t perfect. Because of that, I had built too many walls around my heart and life to even consider the possibility of authentic friendships. Those kinds of friendships would require me to be open, vulnerable, and to be authentically myself. That would also mean that these other Christians who would be my friends, the ones who seemed to have it all together, might realize that I wasn’t very together at all. I was pretty sure I didn’t need those kinds of friendships. I was much better at having acquaintances than having friends anyway.” Click the link below to see what changed all of that for me!  I had the privilege of posting this article over at iBelieve.com and I’d love for you to give it a read and see if you can relate. http://www.ibelieve.com/relationships/just-because-you-ve-never-had-friends-doesn-t-mean-there-isn-t-still-time.html Love and blessings, Bobbie

What Grace Looks Like

I need to tell you about my sweet friend Katie Reid. I haven’t actually met Katie in real life yet, but we are social media besties. She reached out to me a couple of months ago on voxer and we chat All The Time.  She truly is a gift and has been such an awesome encourager, a listening ear, and a sounding board for all of my dreams and plans. Not only is she an amazing friend, she’s an inspiring writer, a talented worship leader, and singer, as well as a hard working mama! I had the privilege of guest posting on Katie’s blog today.  I was able to share what grace looks like to me and how I’m learning to recognize and even seek out grace in the everyday. I’d love it if you would pop on over to her blog and see how you can see grace in

5 Steps to Hope for The Battle Weary

Do you feel the tension that seems to permeate the air of this world lately? Things just feel heavy. Hearts are hurting. People are discouraged and dissatisfied. It seems as if this whole world is worn down from the struggles and it would be so very easy to just give in to the pull of weariness and discontent. In the middle of the strife and struggles, we can start to feel overwhelmed, worn, and just plain weary. When these feelings come, and they linger far past their welcome, what can we do to keep our heads up? How do we remain hopeful when things just seem so difficult? We might get angry and feel like being loud to drown out the noise of others or fighting back harder to win the war. We might get fearful, worried, and just want to withdraw and hide our heads in the sand to

Rein it in!

Sometimes doing wrong isn’t deliberate. Sometimes it is simply the lack of focus on doing right. At least that is usually the case for me. I don’t know about you, but I don’t often set out to make a slew of bad choices, but occasionally (or often, depending on the week) I find myself in a place where I am standing, dumbstruck, wondering how I ended up in the situation that I am in. Does this just happen to me? I think it is safe to say that it probably doesn’t. I found the explanation for it this morning in my Bible reading in 2 Chronicles and it hit me like a ton of bricks. 2 Chronicles 12:14 ESV says, “And he did evil, for he did not set his heart to seek the Lord.” This verse is talking about Rehoboam, King of Judah, but it might as well have

Searching for Grace

It’s become a bit of a tradition to choose a word for the New Year.  This word is supposed to be one specific word to focus on all year.  Honestly, I’m not big on this.  It feels a little like boxing myself in.  My mind goes one hundred miles an hour in a hundred different directions.  How on Earth do I choose just one word to represent all that I want to embody in a whole entire year?  That just seems plain impossible. Unless, of course, God writes that word on your heart countless times over the last several weeks.  It seems every time I turn around one word keeps being presented to me. GRACE Let me get a little wordy nerdy and define it for you.  According to Oxforddictionaries.com, one of the meanings of grace is “(in Christian belief) the free and unmerited favour of God, as manifested in

10 Tips for a Better Quiet Time in 2017

Maybe you are a little like me and getting into the habit of daily Bible reading and prayer has been a struggle for you.  It was always something that I knew should be a part of my daily walk.  I knew it would draw me into a closer relationship with my Heavenly Father.  I also knew it was one of the most powerful ways to really connect with the heart of God. But knowing and doing are two totally different things… It took lots of trial and error to find the way that I was best able to really make my quiet time meaningful.  I’m so glad I took the time to figure out what works best for me, because cultivating that daily time has been the biggest catalyst for change in my heart and in my life. As this New Year dawns, many of us are looking for resolutions that

The Hope of Advent

  Honestly, I’ve never really paid much mind to the weeks of Advent.  I knew that in the liturgical calendar they celebrate the coming of Christmas, but aside from that and the recognition of The weeks of Advent at church, I haven’t really given Advent much attention.  Maybe you’re the same way? That’s something that I’m changing this year.  It’s so very easy to get caught up in the festive holiday spirit and put all of my focus into gifts, meals, parties, and family celebrations.  Those things are all wonderful things, however, if they are all that I’m focused on in the weeks leading up to Christmas, then I’ve missed the whole point! This year I am choosing to use the celebration of Advent as a time to focus on God’s word, prayer, and a real celebration of the reason for the season – the birth of Jesus Christ.  I

Break My Heart For What Breaks Yours

My heart aches this morning as I scroll through my news feed on Facebook.  So many people that I know and love are hurting.  I see so much heartbreak and pain and confusion.  I desperately long to hold tightly onto the shoulders of each person that is broken and look deeply into their eyes and tell them of the hope they have in Jesus.  He’s the only thing that makes walking through the trials bearable.  He’s the only constant and steadfast hope that I’ve ever found.  He’s the only one that will never ever fail. If I were with you right now and I knew that your heart ached for something better than this world can offer, that is just what I would do.  I would lovingly tell you that this world can be hard and God never promised that living in it would be easy.  I would tell you

Renew My Mind

My friends and I been putting in work each and every day this October over on my Facebook group called 31 Days of Change and it’s been amazing!  I’m loving the community there and the way that we all encourage each other and can share and talk about how God is working in our lives this month.  What I’m loving the most, though, is the way that God has been working on me!   I’m learning so much as I study the scriptures and write the posts for each day. Today we talked about renewing our mind.  This is something that’s always been a little bit of a challenge for me.  OK, it’s been a BIG challenge for me! I can be my own worst enemy when it comes to my thought life because I’m driven far too much by my emotions, feelings, and the thought patterns of my past.

Always Seeking Restoration

I think something that I just absolutely LOVE about our Father is that he never ever gives up on us.  Even when we deserve nothing but his judgement and anger, he offers us forgiveness, restoration, and matchless grace, mercy, and love. I’m currently doing a Facebook Group where we are focused on committing to 31 Days of Change.  We are reading and praying God’s word every day this month.  I am just loving all that we are learning and the community that we are building.  (You can learn a little more about that at this link:) Change Is In The Air: 31 Days Of Change I had something different written to post today, but during my quiet time in prayer and Bible study this morning, I felt led to share this instead.  Maybe you need this reminder of God’s desire to draw you back to him.  He’s ways seeking your

Change Is In The Air: 31 Days Of Change

I just love new beginnings and fresh starts.  I love the opportunity to wipe the slate clean.  Today is the first day of a new month.  We are in a new season.  Change is in the air. And I’m so ready for change. My heart aches for it.  My soul longs for it. I want to truly grasp Christ’s love for me and rest easy in my identity in Him.  I want His love to overcome all the muck that weighs me down.  I want to understand the character of God and trust in Him fully.  Just like the seasons are visibly changing, I want to see real, evident change in my heart and in my life. Don’t you? I’m a tough nut to crack though, and change doesn’t come easy for me.  I’ve learned that on my own, I tend to just make things a big ol’ mess, so

Is this all?

Does your life ever feel a little bit small? It’s a good life and your grateful, it’s just not quite what you expected. In general, you are happy. Life is just a little less glamorous and a little more ordinary than you thought it would be. You know you felt the Holy Spirit’s insistent tugging on your heart. You knew that God was calling you to rise up and step into something, but you just weren’t sure what it was. You knew one thing for certain though, it felt BIG.
Now you look at where you are, and you wonder…Is this all I will ever be?

SHAKE A LITTLE SALT AND SHINE A LITTLE LIGHT

  This article was originally published in Faith Filled Family Magazine Just this morning I was sitting down to have my quiet time and my phone buzzed with an incoming message.  It was a dear friend who is walking through something very difficult.  My heart just ached for her as I tried to think of ways to help her through this trying time. I’m just little old me and I’m not really sure what I can do to help anyone. Have you ever felt that way?  Have you ever felt like you were too small or too insignificant to make a difference?  Have you ever wondered if the things that you are doing really matter?  Friend, they do. You are a salt shaker.  You are a shining light.  Each and every one of us has the ability to make a difference in this world.  We have each been placed in

Need A Do Over?

There are days that seem really long and my patience is running really short.  My attitude isn’t right and I just don’t feel like being in a good mood.  Things quickly turn ugly and I find myself in far different situations than I had originally hoped to be in when I planned my day. We all have those days, right? That is when we need a do over.  We need to be able to hit the restart button and just have a new beginning.  I found myself in that place, that place of just really needing a do over, a couple of times this week. I needed a do over with my husband.  We had been planning a date night all week and I was so excited for the opportunity to get away and spend some time together.  All was well as we were preparing to head out the door,