Sometimes doing wrong isn’t deliberate. Sometimes it is simply the lack of focus on doing right. At least that is usually the case for me. I don’t know about you, but I don’t often set out to make a slew of bad choices, but occasionally (or often, depending on the week) I find myself in a place where I am standing, dumbstruck, wondering how I ended up in the situation that I am in. Does this just happen to me? I think it is safe to say that it probably doesn’t. I found the explanation for it this morning in my Bible reading in 2 Chronicles and it hit me like a ton of bricks. 2 Chronicles 12:14 ESV says, “And he did evil, for he did not set his heart to seek the Lord.” This verse is talking about Rehoboam, King of Judah, but it might as well have had my name in the text. Maybe yours could have fit there too? I think this is a truth that applies to all of us because we don’t typically end up in a mess because we plan to. We usually end up in our messes because we forgot to seek God in certain situations and followed our own way instead. We didn’t set our heart and our focus on staying on the right track so before we knew it, we were on the wrong one. Man that sounds super familiar! I can tell that I have gotten on the wrong in a few areas in my life lately. It reminds me of what I’m always saying to my boys. When they get a little out of control and are headed toward bad choices, I’m known to say, “Rein it in, boys!” They know that means to check their behavior. I can feel God telling me to “Rein it in, girl!” in a few areas in my life. 1. Being Content Way too often, I just forget to be content with what I have. Everything that I have, everything that I am, and everything that I do is a gift from God. It is evidence of his grace poured out in abundance in my life. In turn, I should be grateful for all he has given me. Instead, I’ve continued to strive for more instead of being content. I add more to my schedule. I add more to my closet. I add more into our budget. I add more into our lives and I often do it without even stopping for a second to consider God at all in those decisions. Here is a very embarrassing example. I felt like I really needed to declutter, simplify, and cut out the excess. The place I decided to start was in my closet. I love to shop. Like, I really love it. It is usually at thrift stores because I love a great bargain, but it has gotten a little out of control. My closet was prime evidence of that. I’m not even going to shame myself by admitting how much has amassed in my closet.      That isn’t good stewardship. It is excessive and wasteful and selfish. I need to reign in my desire for more and learn to be content with all that God has already blessed me with. I’ve really felt convicted this year to focus on the amazing grace that God has lavished on me in every situation and circumstance. If I’m focused on his gift of grace then being content and being thankful comes as a natural result of that. It has really helped me to see that I have all I need. 2. My Words and Attitude Here is another not so flattering truth I’m seeing about myself these days. I am not sweet and loving and kind by nature. I’m just not. I know this about myself. I tend to be a little sarcastic and snarky. I’ve always just kind of chalked that up to my personality. I’m not mean and I am usually pretty funny, so it all balances out, right? I’m not so sure. God’s grace is so evident by the amazing people that he has lovingly put in my life. I’ve been feeling very convicted for my words and attitude to match my gratitude. I want to show just how blessed I feel to have these wonderful people in my world. I’m a work in progress. We all are, but I truly desire to do a better job of building up, encouraging, and loving. I want my words and attitude to reflect a heart overflowing with thanks for these gifts of grace. 3. My Time Oh man. At the risk of sounding like a total slacker, I will share this last area that I want to rein in. I’m turning into a recluse. I could easily stay in my house, in my pajamas, on the couch, with a good book for days. I don’t do that. Much. But I could. Very easily. I really enjoy being at home and homeschooling my boys, but without a real effort on staying involved with people and with the work God has called me to, I could very easily just keep my focus on what is right in front of me in my own home. I know in my heart of hearts that isn’t what God wants for me. I firmly believe He has called me into relationships, into community, and into works that He has chosen specifically for me at this time. My time isn’t mine to hoard and use in whatever way pleases me the most. It is a resource and a tool to do the work God has called me to and I want to be a better steward of the time God has blessed me with. Getting off track in these areas wasn’t deliberate. It was simply a lack of focus on seeking God and doing the right thing. I took my eyes off of God and put them on my own ways for a while and before I knew it, I felt God saying, “Rein it in, girl!” 2 Chronicles 12:14 was like a palm to the forehead. What a call to refocus and put God back at the front and center!  What a gift of grace that He allows us to see our messes for what they are and gives us opportunities to change them! Are there any areas where you feel God asking you to rein it in and put your focus back on him? I’d love to hear from you! Love and blessings, Bobbie
img_7863 I just love new beginnings and fresh starts.  I love the opportunity to wipe the slate clean.  Today is the first day of a new month.  We are in a new season.  Change is in the air. And I'm so ready for change. My heart aches for it.  My soul longs for it. I want to truly grasp Christ's love for me and rest easy in my identity in Him.  I want His love to overcome all the muck that weighs me down.  I want to understand the character of God and trust in Him fully.  Just like the seasons are visibly changing, I want to see real, evident change in my heart and in my life. Don't you? I'm a tough nut to crack though, and change doesn't come easy for me.  I've learned that on my own, I tend to just make things a big ol' mess, so I've come up with a plan.  This time, I'm turning to the one agent that always produces a truly changed heart and a changed life. I'm turning to God's word I want to invite you to come along on this little journey of change with me.  I'm committing to reading and praying God's word EVERY DAY during the month of October.  I'm going to let His word sink deep into my heart and pray that over myself and my circumstances. I'm trusting in the power of His word to bring about a change in me. Come with me.  Let's walk this road together. I've created a Facebook group here:  31 Days of Change Facebook Group so that we can really walk through this together.  I'd love it if you would join me. Change is in the air and it's going to start with you and me. Love and blessings, Bobbie  
BecauseSCULPTURE & ART.jpg To the Woman Who Feels Alone, On the outside things looks just fine.  No one knows the hurt that is constantly bubbling just under the surface.  No one understands just how hard you have to work to keep it hidden.  Your smile is firmly in place but your eyes show a tenderness that I recognize. I see how you keep your friendships superficial so that people can’t get too close.  People seem safer at an arms’ reach, but I remember the loneliness that kind of distance creates.  It feels like it should be freeing to not have anyone really know you, but after a while the solitude begins to feel suffocating. Maybe your business or your marriage or your dreams have failed.  Maybe you have some shameful secret that seems to be consuming you.  Maybe you are just desperately insecure and fearful.  Maybe you’ve been hurt one too many times in the past.  It could be a multitude of maybes. Whatever the reason, you have been hiding behind a mask and it is wearing you out. The loneliness and the hiding is exhausting. It is time to shake off the shackles.  Don’t let them weigh you down anymore.  Shame and guilt have no power over you.  Insecurity and fear cannot hold you down.  You were not meant to carry that weight. One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Romans 8:1 “So now there isn’t any condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” No Condemnation.  None. If you are a sinner saved by His boundless and abundant grace, you are no longer a slave to all of those old things that use to weigh so heavily of you.  You have complete freedom to live a life released from sin’s bondage.  Come out of hiding.  Live in the light. 1 John 1:7-9 CEB tells us “But if we live in the light in the same way as he is in the light, we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from every sin.  If we claim, “We don’t have any sin,” we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.  But if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from everything we’ve done wrong.” It sounds like it’s too simple to be true, but dear woman who feels alone, it isn’t.  It really is that easy.  And it is less lonely than you think because the Bible says we’ve all missed the mark and fallen short.  Every one of us. Matthew 11:28-30 CEB says “Come to me all you who are struggling hard and carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.  Put on my yoke and learn from me.  I’m gentle and humble.  And you will find rest for yourselves.  My yoke is easy to bear, and my burden is light.” Easy.  Light. Doesn’t that sound so refreshing? If you haven’t ever trusted Him as your Savior, what is holding you back?  What do you have to lose by letting go of it all and trusting in a God who loves you enough to give His Son as payment for your sin so that you could walk in Freedom? Galatians 5:1 says that Christ has set us free for freedom. Therefore, we are able to stand firm.  We don’t have to submit to the bondage of slavery again. Think about it for a moment.  Wouldn’t it feel so good to walk in the light?  Wouldn’t it feel so good to stop struggling beneath the weight of it all.  It would feel so freeing to hand your burdens and struggles and sin and shame and pain to the only one who can help you bear it.  Christian woman who feels alone, release it.  Claim your name.  You are Redeemed. Lonely woman who doesn’t know Jesus, meet him.  He is the game changer. I see you, woman who feels alone.  Because I’ve been you.  But now, I'm learning to choose freedom. Love and blessings, Bobbie SCULPTURE & ART.jpg
2015-10-14 02.05.39 Hello friends! Guess what?!?  I'm going to the Declare Conference (an amazing conference focused on being a #digitalevangelist) in Dallas in a little over a week!  I'm so excited! The Declare Conference is hosting a blog link up!  It's such a fun way for you all (and all my soon-to-be-friends at the conference) to get to know me a little bit better!  They asked some fun little questions and I'm sharing the answers on the blog today! Here goes! 1. If we were meeting in person, how would you introduce yourself? (job, family, career, ministry, where you live … share whatever details come to mind) - My name is Bobbie.  I live in Missouri.  I've been married to my high school sweet heart, Scott, for 16 years.  We have two boys, Brayden 13 and Gavin 9.  They are wild masses of chaos and I absolutely adore them, most of the time.  I homeschool my kiddos. I ❤️Jesus, women's ministry, and words.  I like to combine all of that into a blog and online community at www.bobbieschae.com and www.facebook.com/bobbieschae I believe Jesus loves me and died for me in spite of the fact that I'm a hot mess most of the time.  Because of that, I love encouraging women who feel a bit messy and disconnected.   2. What is your favorite thing to write and why? -I love to write whatever God lays on my heart.  I'm typically inspired to write after my quiet time.  I just write whatever the Holy Spirit has started bubbling up inside of me.  I try to be very real, organic, and authentic.   3. What is your favorite thing to read and why? (If this question is too broad for you avid readers, what’s a favorite book or blog you’ve read lately?) -I LOVE to read!  Some of my faves lately have been Giddy Up, Eunice by Sophie Hudson, For The Love by Jen Hatmaker, Wild and Free by Jess Connoly and Haley Morgan, Chasing God by Angie Smith, and Misfits Welcome by Matthew Barnett.  I'm currently reading Loving My Actual Life by Alexandra Kuykendall.   4. If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be? -Lay on the couch in yoga pants and watch Netfix for HOURS while I drink coffee!  Um.  I mean, do something spiritual and productive. ;)   5. What’s one thing you love about your blog and one thing you’d like to improve? -I love that it gives me the opportunity to connect and share with people from all over the world.  It's a place where I feel like I can just sit down and put my heart out there to my friends and offer them a little encouragement from my personal experiences. I would love to improve the functionality and design of it so that it's super user friendly for everyone who stops by.   6. [Lightening Round] Would you rather … Read on Kindle or paperback?  -Always paperback!  I love a hard copy of a real book! Drink coffee or tea? -Coffee in the am and tea in the pm. Go to a musical or a movie?  -Movie Vacation at the beach or the mountains?  -Mountains!  I love to hike and I hate swimming suits.  ;) Have an exciting night out or a relaxing night in?  -That's a tough one!  Depends on the week! Watch sports, play sports, or no sports?  -I do crossfit (although not super well), but aside from that, no sports please! That was so fun!  😉  Feel free to share your answers in the comments !  I'd love to get to know you better too! Love and blessings, Bobbie
2015-12-11 08.41.49 Today would be my Dad's birthday.  Mine is right before his.  This is a picture of us celebrating together a few years ago.  He's been gone now for about a year and a half.  It sure doesn't seem like that long, but at the same time, it feels like forever since I've seen him.  I miss him often, but especially today. I don't understand why God allowed him to die.  I don't understand how taking him was a better plan than doing a miracle of healing.  I still struggle with that.  Honestly, there is only one way I know to deal with that kind of pain. This morning, with a heavy heart, I prayed a version of the same prayer that I pray every time I feel a little overwhelmed by the grief. "Father, God, I don't understand your ways.  I hurt and I miss my dad terribly, but I'm choosing to trust you in the midst of the hurt.  I know you are good.  I know you are love.  I know that you see the beginning and the end and that your plans are greater than my own.  I don't understand why God, but I understand who you are.  Help me to trust fully in your character and in who you are in spite of how I feel.  Fill my hurting heart with peace. Amen." That prayer gets me through the things I can't understand and the things that aren't easy.  I'm hoping it can help someone else today. Love and blessings, Bobbie